Wednesday, July 21, 2010

The Mind of a Husband

i love my wife. i know that should go without saying, but the problem is that most of the time it does. i tell Lori that i love her all the time, but it doesn't come out very often in conversations with other people. Once again, i hope that it is evident in the way that i live, but why risk it? Let's just come out and say it out loud for everyone to hear! i love Lori Nicole Redfearn.
For those of you that are looking for some news on our lives, you should probably just move along, cause this post is gonna stay as mushy as it has started.
Things that i love about my wife:
i love that she is compulsive about cleaning. She doesn't really enjoy cleaning, but she likes everything to be clean... this is a problem, as my sisters will attest to the fact that i have never been a clean boy... ever. The reason i love this about Lori is the fact that, though she doesn't like cleaning, she disiplines herself to clean. Discipline is something i see lacking in my own life, and watching her do it so well is inspiring... and humbling.
i love that she is an encourager. i'm not so good with the sitting down and writing notes to people thing... probably has to do with the discipline issue again... but my wife is incredible at this. She has a unique ability to encourage with sincerity. She doesn't flatter. She doesn't tickle ears (well she does, but not like that - also a favorite). She can find the Holy Spirit inside of you and speak identity into your life. Most of us feel like we're trying to find our "place in this world" (thank you Michael W. Smith), and i wish i could introduce everyone to my amazing wife, so she could tell you just how the Lord has been using you.
i love that i can be silly and joke with my wife. For a lot of us "He-man-woman-haters" out there, being a goofball is a bad thing. It's not manly. It's not cool. The problem is, it can be pretty fun... and like to laugh. Lori is easy to laugh with. That was actually an observation that my father made about her before he had even met her. Pretty observant guy.
i love that my wife can be a mama bear. For those of you that don't know what this means, i pity you. Probably because you will most likely find yourself in her jaws at some point. It's not just when she's hungry, and it's not when you have wronged her most of the time, but it comes out when you injure or disrespect those that she loves. Man, she will rip your arms off and beat you with them. She is FIERCE! and i love it!
Lastly (for this post), i love my wife because more than cleanliness, she desires purity; more than knowing and encouraging others, she knows and is, herself, encouraged by Jesus Christ from whom she receives her own identity; more than silliness she has joy overflowing, that comes from knowledge and fear of a gracious God who loves her, and loves to give good gifts; and more than being fierce for those who have been placed in her care, she is fiercely and passionately in love with her savior. i LOVE the Jesus that i see in my wife!


  1. Thanks isn't enough to say, babe. You honor me. I love you the mostest!

  2. I am thrilled that you two have a blog...and even more excited that you BOTH post! Kudos on your last one, John!